Big Little Lies Book Club Kit

Question 1:

Which character from “Big Little Lies” did you most identify with and why?

See the discussion here.

Question 2:

Playground Politics: Do you recognize portraits of people in your own life in the drama among the parents at the school in “Big Little Lies”?

Are you able to relate to the conflict among the mothers (i.e. birthday party invitation protocol, interactions with the school staff, and the clique groups among the mothers themselves) or has your school experience been more peaceful?

See the discussion here.

Question 3:

There is a lot of discussion about women and their focus on their own body image in “Big Little Lies,” particularly in the characters over 40. Do you think women tend to be more or less body conscious at that age? At what age did/do you feel most confident about yourself?

See the discussion here.

Question 4:

Several scenes show characters expressing violent tendencies/desires in “Big Little Lies.” (Jane says she wants to throw Ziggy into the wall when he has a meltdown in the bathtub, that she wants to hit Renata, and then stops just short of kicking Harper in the play yard. ) What do you think the author is trying to imply about this in regards to Perry’s character? Are we meant to sympathize with his tendencies or are they presented as a foil?

See the discussion here.

Question 5:

A lot of Madeline’s storyline in “Big Little Lies” is about the complications that arise from the merging of new modern families.

What kind of problems exist among families and extended families now that didn’t when you were a child?

Have you faced similar challenges with your family?

See the discussion here.

Question 6:

When Jane recounts what happened the night she got pregnant in “Big Little Lies,” she focuses on what the man said rather than on what he did.

Why does Jane feel more violated by two words – fat and ugly—than by the actual assault?

If she were your friend, how would you have advised her to handle the situation the next morning?

See the discussion here.

Question 7:

The power of secrets is a theme throughout “Big Little Lies.”

Jane remembers, “She hadn’t told anyone. She’d swallowed it whole and pretended it meant nothing, and therefore it had come to mean everything.”

Do you think this is true, that the more you keep something secret, the more power it takes on?

See the discussion here.

Question 8:

Gwen, the babysitter, seems to be the only one to suspect what is going on with Celeste and Perry in “Big Little Lies.”

Celeste then realizes she’s never heard Gwen talk about a husband.

Do you think Liane Moriarty intended to suggest that perhaps Gwen had an abusive husband and that she left him?

In light of what happens at the end with Bonnie, do you think it’s only people who have personally experienced abuse who pick up on the signs?

See the discussion here.

Question 9:

At one point in “Big Little Lies” Jane thinks she and Ziggy will have to leave Pirriwee because “rich, beautiful people weren’t asked to leave anywhere.”

Do you think different rules apply to rich people?

Do you think being rich allowed Perry to get away with things longer than would have been likely if he hadn’t had money?

See the discussion here.

Question 10:

In “Big Little Lies” Bonnie says, “We see. We f****** see!”

Were you surprised to learn about Bonnie’s history?

Were you surprised to discover that all along Max had been seeing what Perry was doing to Celeste?

See the discussion here.

Question 11:

What did you think of the format using interview snippets to the reporter in “Big Little Lies”?

Did you find them distracting or entertaining or insightful?

See the discussion here.

Question 12:

In “Big Little Lies” Madeline muses:

“Maybe it was actually an unspoken instant agreement between four women on the balcony: No woman should pay for the accidental death of that particular man.”

And then Madeline thinks, “ Sometimes doing the wrong thing was also right.”

Do you agree with what the women decided to do?

Do you think there’s a stronger bond between women than there is between men?

See the discussion here.

Question 13:

At one point in “Big Little Lies,” Susi says that, in Australia, one woman dies every week because of domestic violence.

In the United States, more than three women are murdered by their husbands or boyfriends every day. Every nine seconds in the United States a woman is assaulted or beaten.

Domestic violence is the leading cause of injury to women—more than that caused by car accidents, muggings, and rapes combined.

Are you surprised by these statistics?

See the discussion here.

Question 14:

Were you surprised by Abigail’s web site in “Big Little Lies”?

If she was your daughter, how would you have handled the situation?

See the discussion here.